Sexuality has never been a big deal for me. Growing up, my mum dated women and men at different times, and I understood from a young age that sexuality is fluid. I have always identified with pansexual (attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity) because I’m attracted to a person for who they are and how they make me feel – full stop. But I only went on my first date with a woman at the ripe old age of 25.
Online dating isn’t for everyone. You have to be able to handle undue criticism and random inappropriate outbursts from people you’ve never met. You must be willing to rattle off your life story and answer the same questions over and over again with a smile on your face. You should learn to spot the red flags early on, leaving those rose-coloured glasses buried at the bottom of your bag lest they all just look like regular quirks instead of signs that you should run very far, very fast. If you do dabble in dating apps, you will know firsthand how important opening messages are. So, what are online dating first message do’s and don’ts? Let’s dive into my inbox and find out.
At once in the spotlight and severely overlooked is the notion of consent. In this case, consenting (or not) for sexual acts to be done to you or by you. Consent inherently implies permission and agreement – it sounds serious, and it is. But there are ways to incorporate it into your sexual routine that don’t require a contract. Let’s dive into the world of informed consent.
Welcome dear readers, conscious cuties, and ethical lovers.
I’m Isobella, and this is my shiny new blog.
In my posts, you can expect to see a carefully curated combination (read: mishmash) of anecdotal reflections and educational content. Just like in my personal life, I can’t bare the thought of sticking to one thing, so I will be covering a range of topics that most interest me, and that I feel need more exposure in general – enter my tagline (and Instagram hashtag) ethical living and loving. This umbrella term encompasses all things sex, love and relationships, as well as veganism, travel, and ethical living in general. This blog will be sex-positive, vegan-friendly, intersectional, and heartfelt.